Healthcare Training Institute - Quality Education since 1979

Section 28
Selected Readings Bibliography/Authors/Instructors
& Concluding Commentary

Table of Contents | NCCAP/NCTRC CE Booklet

Selected Readings and Bibliography

-Charlesworth, Ph.D., Edward A. and Ronald G. Nathan, Ph.D.  Stress Management: A Comprehensive Guide to Wellness. Random House Publishing Group, New York, 1982.
-Elkin, Ph. D., Allen.  Stress Management for Dummies.  Wiley Publishing, Inc. Indianapolis, IN, 1999.
- Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D. Harriet.  The Dance of Anger.  Harper and Row Publishers, Inc., New York, 1986.
- Greene, Ph. D., Don.  Fight Your Fear and Win.  Broadway Books, New York, 2001.
- McKay, Ph.D., Matthew and Patrick Fanning.  Stop Letting Your Life Lead You! Master Your Own Destiny Through Self Esteem! New Harbinger Publications, Oakland, CA, 1987.
- McKay, Ph. D. Matthew, Peter Rogers, Ph.D, and Judith McKay, R.N.  When Anger Hurts. MFJ Books, New York, NY, 1989.
- Namie, Ph.D. Gary and Ruth Namie, Ph.D. The Bully at Work: What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job.  Sourcebooks, Inc. Naperville, IL, 2000.
- Richardson, Cheryl.  Stand Up for Your Life. The Free Press, New York, 2002.
- Rosellini, Gayle, and Mark Worden.  Of Course You’re Angry.  Hazeldon Foundation, USA, 1985.
- Savage, Ph.D. Elayne.  Don’t Take It Personally!: Transform Rejection Into Self-Acceptance. MFJ Books, New York, NY, 1997.
DVD Instructor:  T. Cathy (Zugel) Appleton, MSW, MEd, LCSW, Founding Member NAAP, Director, Healthcare Training Institute

Concluding Commentary
By the author, Cathy Zugel

Well, there you have it in a "nutshell," so-to-speak-- the "nutshell" being this Manual, DVD, and Note-Taking Booklet.  You have the skills necessary to have a successful encounter, not only with the Domineering Resident(s) in your facility, but with other challenging people both in and out of the facility.  I've provided you with a core-set of tools that can serve to create an invaluable transformation in your life.  If one tool seems to be more applicable than another, and you wish to acquire more information regarding that idea, consider going to a library or book store's self-help section, or the internet.  Clearly, information on these skills is endless. 

However, the goal of this course is not for you to feel overwhelmed and that you need to try to Journal or follow-through with each idea.  The purpose is to provide you with very specific, concrete, step-by-step proven techniques to transform your relationships with the difficult people in your life, and, in this case, specifically the Domineering Resident(s) in your facility. 

However, if it's Christmas time and you are overwhelmed with a plethora of Holiday "stuff," or it's June and your child is graduating or getting married; or maybe you're just in a slump and feel that trying something new at this particular point in time is just impossible; make an appointment with yourself to review this Manual during a time in which you can be more receptive.  But watch your "procrastination demon" to make sure that that time does come. 

If now is not the right time for you, write on your personal planner a date in the future to select an idea and start Journaling or implementing that idea.  When will that be?  Remember, as the Introductory Commentary to Part III stated, "The choice is yours."  Sometimes change is hard because you are comfortable with what is familiar to you.  But when you change, you are dealing with the unknown. 

Some of us would rather stay with our current patterns of behavior, even though we are totally miserable and these patterns of behavior do not work for us.  But we would rather stay with our misery than consider, perhaps, saying something different to someone and breaking out of old relational patterns into the ‘unknown’. 

Can you find the courage in yourself to change?  Can you face the unknown of saying or doing something differently with a person in your life?  The real choice is comfort with the familiar versus discomfort with uncertainty.  Is your current level of discomfort strong enough in your current relationship with a difficult other, to motivate you to cope with uncertainty?  Or is your discomfort with the uncertainty of change so strong you would rather stay with the discomfort of your relationship with this difficult person? 

The Core Issue: So, as you can see, in reading all of these Manual pages and spending all of that time watching the DVD, the Core Issue regarding your choice to use this material really boils down to the question of, "Is your level of discomfort with your Domineering Resident stronger than your level of discomfort regarding facing the uncertainty of change?"  If you feel strong discomfort with change and uncertainty regarding actually trying a specific idea in this Manual, chances are the lure of the possible potential payoff of making a change with a domineering resident will not be strong enough for change to take place.  However, if you have a low level of discomfort regarding change and uncertainties concerning a certain idea in this Manual, and you have a higher level of discomfort in your relationship with your domineering resident or other difficult person, you probably will implement that idea and change will take place.

I've done my part.  You have the best that I can offer to you on this topic.  It's your decision whether you do your best or not.  The choice is yours.